Does Unschooling Spoil the Child? A Candid Conversation

This discussion appeared recently on the Christian Unschooling Facebook Group:

Does Unschooling Create Spoiled BratsSARAH D: So, I’m reading a lot regarding unschooling at the moment, most of it seems to be geared towards giving our children all their wants/needs – first thing is this scriptural? Wants not needs – I mean, should we get our children all their wants? Will they not turn into spoilt brats? Secondly, what if you just can’t facilitate them? Financially, space-wise, time etc?

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Christian Unschooling, Part 4: That Pesky Word, “Radical”

“The radical of one century is the conservative of the next. The radical invents the views. When he has worn them out, the conservative adopts them.” ~Mark Twain

I saved this post for last for a few reasons. First, in many ways it’s the most important, because it ties everything together and is at the crux of why we do what we do. It’s also one of the hardest and most frustrating to write, and the one I’ve been losing the most sleep over.

I’ve come to a disheartening realization lately. What I said in part one about feeling like I’m alone in many ways was the truth… too Christian for the unschoolers, too unschooly for the Christians. But the fact is, in some cases that feeling is self-imposed. The unschoolers I know have, as a whole, been extremely welcoming and non-judgmental. As my unschooling circle grows, I’m just more and more thankful for its presence, and proud to be part of it. Continue Reading

Unschooling Myths and Misconceptions: Unschooling is Unparenting

One of the biggest misunderstandings I’ve found that people have with unschooling, particularly in Christian unschooling, is the question of guidance. People seem to jump to the conclusion that Unschooling = Unparenting. Christians assume that if you’re unschooling it means you’re not guiding your children or “training them up in the way they should go.”

So, for the record, let me very clearly state – the parenting philosophy behind unschooling typically involves a LOT of guidance, y’all! Continue Reading