Oh, where to begin? Hi there, my name is Victoria and I am mom to four (soon to be five!) pretty amazing kids, ages 6, 5, 3, and 2. We’ll have a newborn sometime in February and we are excited! I have been married to my God-loving husband, Eric, for 9 years this year. We live in Northeast Ohio and so we have absolutely zero faith in weather reports!
I will be 28 this year and my husband will be 30. Yes, we started young and no, I didn’t expect this to be my life. But I thank God every day for giving me better than I could have done for myself!
I am a writer of sorts, almost exclusively a blogger at the moment because life is busy! I blog at Verbose Victoria. My husband is a subcontracting electrician and he works hard every day, God bless him. We have been given a very supportive family and circle of friends through our church, although I only know one other family attempting homeschool this year, and they plan to enroll their child back in school next year.
I am in love with learning and I plan to encourage my kids to keep their love of learning as well. Feeling “other” amongst people I love has become my version of normal, and I embrace it (for the most part!). My curiosity makes me interested in just about anything, but some things I currently pursue are editing other writers, copious fiction reading, crafting, movie nights at home, studying God’s truth, dance parties in the kitchen, and learning how to be dairy-free and gluten-free when no one else in my family has to be!
What does your typical day look like?
Our typical day is full of questions and journeys to the answers. That’s about as predictable as it gets! My kids are still very young so we don’t have much in the way of long-term projects. Most recently, I’ve been assigning myself a topic to cover with them each day – Bible, reading, writing/spelling, art/science – so that I can describe what we’re doing to family or close friends while I’m getting the rhythm down with a newborn in a couple weeks. For that purpose, we have been using a couple workbooks but normally we don’t use workbooks regularly. We use a lot of library books, a lot of online searches, and a lot of science DVDs. More than anything, though, we use conversation. We talk about EVERYTHING.
My day starts early with helping Eric get out the door for work. That wakes up everyone else, so then we have breakfast. We start the day reading something from the Bible together and praying. After that, all bets are off! They love to color… draw and design, create things with scissors and glue and empty cereal boxes. They play together quite a bit, making up storylines and dramatic dialogues. When it’s warm weather, they are outside EVERY day, finding creatures and plants to identify.
A few times a week, we end up going to run errands, visit with friends, or spend time at the library. After lunch, the youngest takes a nap and I take some time to connect with the other three with a kitchen table project or stacks of books. Sometimes we get the wiggles out by dancing around the house! Then they help clean up before Eric gets home. Eric wrestles with them for a bit when he walks in the door and then we get dinner going. He reads to us from the Bible before dinner, we eat, and then we usually watch something together. Then bedtime rituals and we start over the next day.
What does the term “unschool” mean to you?
To me, it means I am allowed to pursue family education in the most personalized way possible without feeling the pressure of social or relational expectations. It means Eric and I are free to hear what God is saying about each of our kids and follow through with it without distraction. It means we can be confident in our abilities as a family.
Have you always unschooled or did you, like many, gradually move from traditional homeschooling (or public school) towards unschooling? If so, where are you in the process and how did you get there?
I think I have always unschooled, in some sense of the word. My adventure is still brand new, but I’ve always known I couldn’t follow a hard and fast plan. We used to do more workbooks when my oldest was 4 years old, just whatever kind of preschooling busywork we could find. When she hit a wall and started refusing to even look at them, I knew something had to change. That’s when I found a name for the kind of schooling I was interested in. For two solid months, we did nothing that even resembled school WORK. I read and read and read about unschooling, talked it over to death with my mom and my husband, and worked at peeling back my own presuppositions. It was God’s timing for sure because I was starting to get bent out of shape over my oldest’s resistance to phonetic reading. Now I’m able to let her do it her way instead of making us both upset.
What interests do your kids have that you never would have guessed they would develop?
Actually, I have been amazed that my 6 year old, 5 year old, and 3 year old have a strong curiosity about basic economics! They love learning about the value of money, how things are bought and sold, why some things cost a lot and other things don’t cost very much, how things get to the store, how we pay bills for the house, how much they would have to save to buy something they want… They soak it up!
What are some of the benefits of unschooling that you have seen?
Our family is building a strong foundation of being together. I can see it being forged. It also helps Eric and I assess each of our kids individually and be more in tune with where they are as people, what they need, etc. I have also seen my kids blossom into trying new things and asking questions that reveal more about their thought processes and feelings.
What are some of the negatives?
I think the negatives reside mostly in my own insecurity. It is hard to describe what we do to other people in a way they will understand and respect. I tend to assume judgment, even when there isn’t any, because of my insecurity. I’m workin’ on it!
The other negative that comes to mind is more of a community issue – if there are other unschooling families in my area with very young kids (as opposed to teenagers), I cannot seem to find them! Sometimes my kids want to call a friend or invite them to play, but all their close friends are in school. We have a MOPS (Moms Of PreSchoolers) group we go to, but it’s only twice a month.
Tell us about your best day (or your worst).
I am thrilled any day that I know for sure I’ve paid attention to my kids enough to know we made the most of opportunities. I am disappointed any day that I feel I’ve been too lazy or too impatient with them.
One thing I was proud of very recently was the collage/mosaic project we did together on a Saturday. We used all kinds of art media, tons of glue, and put them in frames to hang up in their rooms. It was awesome!
Favorite definition of unschooling:
You know, I’m not much for quotes in general. But I do love Philippians 1:9-11
“And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ–to the glory and praise of God.” That’s what it’s all about, for our family.
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